Dr. Gabor Maté talks about how important it is to be puzzled and to ask the question “what’s really going on here?” rather than assuming that we know all the answers.
‘6 Secrets to Moving On From Serious Struggles’ by Beth Burgess
“Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.” ~ Unknown
‘People who knew me ten years ago would probably expect me to be dead now. They wouldn’t expect me to have escaped my problems. They wouldn’t expect me to have stopped drinking, drugging, taking overdoses, and cutting my arms.
People who knew me ten years ago saw a scared shell of a girl, terrified of her own shadow and on a mission to self-destruct. They wouldn’t expect me to have turned my life around completely. They certainly wouldn’t expect me to be sharing my story and helping others to let go of their struggles, too.
‘Mistakes are the juice of life’ by Veronica Valli
I think this new blog from Veronica Valli is a great reminder.
‘When I first got sober I was under the delusion that in order to stay sober, I had to become perfect in all areas.
It got worse when I trained to be a therapist. Because I was a therapist I thought I needed to always be serene, wise and know the right thing to say. I needed to exude a calm, reassuring confident manner with everyone, not just my clients. But no matter how hard I tried, I would f**k up.
’10 Mistakes That Could Ruin Your Addiction Recovery’ by Addiction Helpline
This is an interesting article on the traps you may fall into in your recovery, published by Addiction Helpline in the UK.
‘It takes a significant amount of effort to break away from addiction. You could do all the right things, like going to rehab, yet you still end up more or less back where you started. This is a real shame, but it is always preventable. The reason people end up ruining their recovery is they go off track – this starts by falling into one of the common traps.
Here are 10 mistakes you will want to avoid to enjoy a lasting recovery:
On Healing: Jackie
‘Healing is a really confusing word. When I first thought of it I thought I would go along and all this pain was going to be healed and at the finish I would just walk away and I would be healed, but now I know healing means learning.
Learning about yourself – learning about looking at things in a different way. Understanding how those things came to be.
Owning your own things, but not taking on board other people’s things. Being responsible for what you are responsible for, but not for other people’s responsibilities.
Marion’s Story: My Resilience
A number of factors have contributed to the development of Marion’s resilience and her ability to live successfully in two cultures.
Brad’s Moment(s) of Clarity
Here’s the second of our Moment of Clarity series, taken from Brad’s Recovery Story.
‘At this time, I thought willpower is what I needed to stop drinking, but I soon found out that this wasn’t the case. I was lacking a true willingness and desire to get well. I daydreamed and dreamt about stopping drinking, but I think that’s all it was at that stage. There was no real consideration of the work that would be involved in stopping.
Anyway, I decided I needed a break from the booze. I retired to bed and began going through the terror of a full-blown rattle, something I hope I never have to go through again. Five days later, I was physically dry. I then decided to see how long I could abstain from alcohol. After six weeks of no alcohol, I still wanted a drink. In fact, my desire for alcohol was worse than ever.
Strategies to Face Adversity: Learning
Many study participants expressed that learning about their culture was an important part of survival as an Aboriginal person in today’s Aboriginal society.
The culture of addiction: Part 1
This is the first of two blogs on the culture of addiction. I will later look at the culture of recovery, and after that consider how we can help people move from the culture of addiction to the culture of recovery.
These articles are based on the seminal writings of William L White, in particular from his book Pathways from the Culture of Addiction to the Culture of Recovery. In this book, Bill provides key insights into how we can help people move cultures – essential in their journey along the path to recovery.
‘Culture’ generally refers to patterns of human activity and the symbolic structures that give such activities significance and importance. Wikipedia