Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

51Yq0hL1NEL._SY346_PJlook-inside-v2,TopRight,1,0_SH20_Shame plays a major role in keeping people locked in addiction. Shame of what a person has become through their addiction, and how it has affected relationships with loved ones and friends, can drive people to more self-medication in efforts to alleviate the feelings experienced. 

In the section Books to facilitate your recovery, I have recommended Brene Brown’s latest book Daring Greatly, which is well worth a read. Brene is a shame researcher who has become a major name in the past few years, in part due to her having the second most viewed TEDx talk. I guess 10.7 million views is what you call viral.

Here’s what I said about Daring Greatly:

“Every now and again, I read a book that I immediately read again (this time using a marker), and then keep picking up to read various bits that I have highlighted. This is the latest of such books.

Now, I’d never heard of Brene Brown until some months ago, but boy-oh-boy, what was I doing? Brene, a shame researcher, is one impressive lady and her unique “blend of warmth, humour and [butt]-kicking makes her the perfect person to inspire us to dare greatly.” Isn’t that what recovery is about?

In Daring Greatly, Brene talks about how having the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live. She describes the guideposts for Wholehearted Living, a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness. And she talks about much, much more. This book is a must-have.”

And here is  great quote from the book:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming…
 
who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly…” Theodore Roosevelt, as quoted in ‘Daring Greatly’ by Brene Brown

Comments

  1. Bash O'Khan says:

    Brilliant book,couldn’t stop reading it. I have always had a Fear of Vulnerability that’s why I used so I didn’t have to feel certain emotions such as anger,hurt and shame,but through my recovery program of Spiritual principles I practice acceptance of painful emotions i.e shame,anger,hurt instead of avoiding or suppresing them. Sharing your intimate self with another human being and being compassionate and practicing empathy with yourself and others helps us to accept our vulnerability. We are so fortunate to be in recovery and have recovery programs that apply the principles Brene Brown shows to gain a better understanding of our vulnerabilityand emotions. So recommend this t all…..One Love

    • David Clark says:

      Hi Bash, I absolutely agree, a brilliant book. And it really helped me start to deal with some problems I have faced, both personally and in relation to the work I do. I found the ‘being in the arena’ part of great help. I also loved Brene’s shame book and her course looks really good – should be an integral part of addiction programs.

  2. Bash O'Khana says:

    Hi Dave. Thanks for your reply. It feels nice to be noticed as well. In recovery never mind in addiction i just wanted to be invisible or on the sidelines due to my shame….but I believe I have a daily program of Compassionate Self Acceptance, reassessing my shame by doing a thorough and fearless moral inventory and sharing with another addict…It was relieving {surpised and sad at first} to find out that we can’t get rid of shame just as much as we can’t stop hurt and anger but we can build our resilience to Shame….I tried all my Life to get RID of Shame by using heroin/crack only Feeding the Dark gremlin with more Shame…a vicious cycle. Which Shame book and course are you referring to David??

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